I have found my Soul Mate!!!!

This hub is dedicated to my husband James Bishop

I met my husband about 7 years ago through Yahoo Messenger. Back in those days, I spent quite a bit of time in chat rooms on Yahoo Messenger and considered him to be a friend. As time grew on, we developed a relationship that consisted of a lot of chatting and as a result of many long hours spent at the computer chatting, I started to grow feelings for this man.

As our relationship grew over the internet, he was struggling at the location where he was at. I decided to make a road trip to another state to rescue him and bring him home to live with me and my, at the time, 10 year old daughter.

I had a few reservations as to wondering if whether or not we would hit it off as well as we did on the internet. But, my heart was the one that begged me to start a new chapter in my life. So, after much consideration and thought, I got into my little neon and drove 16 hours to pick up my husband.

Our relationship at first was fantastic! We could not get enough of each other; however, due to my immaturity and the extreme need for attention at that particular point in my life; I started to communicate with other people behind his back. For a period of approximately six months, he did not live with me and my daughter.

He decided to move out with a roommate and live on his own to see if the time apart in our relationship would help us to grow and move forward. I believe that we quite possibly spent more time together when we were living apart than when we did when he lived in the same apartment as I.

I realized after some time that this man truly loved me and his proof of that undying love was apparent in his patience and reliability that he showed to us over and over again. I am by no means an easy woman to get along with. The quote from Marilyn Monroe "I make mistakes, I am out of control at times and hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure don't deserve me at my best” is rather fitting for me actually! My husband is one of the most patient and loving people that I have ever met in my lifetime.

We lived together for a few years and then he completely surprised me! He proposed to me in front of my family on Christmas Day 2005 and I ecstatically said yes! He loves and treats my daughter, Kyla like she is his child and for that I cannot love him enough. It is oftentimes very difficult for a single man to come into a relationship with a woman that has a child or children. James has handled everything that is thrown at him with dignity and confidence as far our family is concerned.

In January of 2009, my husband was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. It has been a long and hard year as he has had to adjust to many different things including several different types of medication that he must take on a daily basis. He has problems with his memory and always has back pain, but he deals with it and does not complain. I hate seeing him in pain and try to make him as comfortable as I possibly can.

Throughout the past year, he has spent thousands of hours doing research on the internet to figure out a way to make an income in order to be able to continue to help support our family. We currently have ten websites on different topics that range from hot tubs to camping equipment to charter jet services.

We run this business together and are just starting to reap the benefits of our hard work over the course of the past year. When my husband and I got married 3.5 years ago, he promised me that he would take excellent care of me and my daughter and that he would always be there for both of us! He has not let us down on that promise.

My daughter’s biological father is a piece of garbage; he picks and chooses when he wants to be a father to my daughter and this is something that angers me to no end. For him, making an attempt to contact his child to see what is new and interesting in her life is even too difficult. To me, this man is pretty much a waste of space.

Jamie however, is always around and always picks up the pieces that Kyla’s real dad doesn’t seem to care about. Kyla is now a difficult sixteen year old, but the relationship that she and her step-dad have cannot be described.

We are exploring the possibility of Jamie adopting Kyla so that he can legally be her parent as he is already doing everything that her biological father should be doing for her as well as so much more. Unfortunately, through much research and conversations with lawyers, I have discovered that it is almost impossible to go through the adoption process unless the absent biological father agrees to it or voluntarily ignores his child for a period of six months.

 I swear just as we seem to hit the six month mark, the telephone rings and it is her biological father calling. He, of course, refuses to give up custody of Kyla so that another man can take care of her. In fact, his exact words to me were “It is not God’s will for another man to take care of my child.” I had to laugh in his face at that comment as he has never taken care of his daughter!

My husband has loved me unconditionally and faithfully and without him, my life would be empty. He is my best friend and has helped me grow into the woman that I am today. At one point in my life, I didn’t believe in soul mates but I am completely confident that I have finally found mine! I love you baby!